Purpose Driven
Begin with Why Bother?

• What about the present situation motivates you to change?

• Be honest with your self!

• With out clarity and truth here, you will have little real commitment to a goal.

• What's the benefit to you to change? To the organization?

• Describe as if it had already happened.

• Describe what those around you would see after the desired results had been achieved. How would they feel when interacting with you?

• What was it about you that enabled them to happen?
• What was the driving Passion?
• What capabilities did you use?
• What other conditions enabled you to succeed?

• Make a huge list.

• Select one you can put into action within 24 hours.
  • It can be a small action, but significant.

  • Choose one that commits you (cancel your cable, throw out the TV!)

• Select one with a longer term focus.

• As you complete actions add more from your list.

• As you find that actions do not produce the desired result, STOP DOING.

Barriers
What are the barriers which to your goals?

• Explore the three major types of barriers:
  • those in the external world

  • those which may arise in the people close to you: family, peers, friends

  • those internal to you: self doubts, procrastination, etc

• List them.

• Select the three biggest barriers.

• Create a strategy to break through these barriers or avoid them or reduce them.

• Add these to your Actions.

Get Your Attitude On Your Side

• Negative self talk—I can't do this; I don't deserve to succeed; etc, will block you.

• Complement yourself, decide what honest compliments would be appropriate.

• Regularly state your new beliefs to yourself—out loud!

• A belief with out evidence requires FAITH. Faith in your self.

• Beliefs are the things you feel certain about. "I will succeed in this venture!"

• Set interim results or milestones. Indicators that you're progressing to your goal.

• Set rewards for milestones. These are celebrations of you.

• Measure progress towards your goals.

• Review progress. Are you on track and on schedule? Brutal honesty is crucial.

• Assess the validity of your actions. This means your assessment of how well the actions you have pursued achieve the results you desire. On you are on the right path?

• Assess your integrity in pursuing your actions. Are you really doing the actions?

• When progress is off track, consider redesigning your actions.

Buddy System: For Armoring and Supporting Change and Action Plans

Also called Master Mind Groups by that master of personal self help Napoleon Hill.

Background

Statistics on Getting Better show that 70% of what you decide to change will disappear unless you follow-up and commit to put it into practice within seven days.

You have made some follow-up plans. Now we will ask you to Armor them from the day-to-day pressures which will attempt to erode your commitment to them.

Select a Buddy or a Trio of Buddies

Select a buddy or a trio who will be helpful, not just friendly. Contract for 3 months of working together. Then re evaluate.

You and your buddy are asked to:

1. Schedule a date, time and method of meeting within 5-9 days of the end of this meeting. Ideally, meet in person. Phone is OK.

2. At the meeting review your follow-up goals/plans one person at a time. Cover the following agenda more or less in sequence. Some items will overlap in actual conversation.
   • Share your specific goals and action plans.

   • Report progress towards the goal.

   • Report the degree of integrity with which you have pursued the activities you selected to reach the goal.

   • Report any barriers in the external world and inside yourself.

   • Problem solve with your buddy to overcome low integrity, problems and barriers.

   • Record your commitments.

   • Plan to meet/connect again. In the beginning weekly is the place to start. If this is too frequent or infrequent, change it.

   • Evaluate the meeting. How'd it go? Beneficial? What specifically helped you? Did you split the time?

3. Guidelines:
   • Be positive: Look for "How To," not "Why Not."

   • Remember you are not responsible for the other person's decisions or feeling.

   • Hold one another accountable, "Last time you said you would have this done by now with no sweat. What happened?"

Review And Action Planning

Do this with your buddy. Set your reviews based on the time frames you set for your actions.

1. Fill in the actual Results for each goal.

2. Honestly assess your Integrity and the Validity of the actions.

3. Share your Goal Tracking sheet with your buddy.

4. After your Buddy has reviewed your updated sheet, tell you Buddy how satisfied and pleased you are with what you accomplished.

5. If you largely achieved all the Desired Results, it is now time to take a fresh Goal Tracking sheet and plan the actions for the next time period. If achieving the current Desired Results was relatively easy, you might consider setting more challenging Desired Results for the next cycle.

6. If you were not satisfied and pleased with your progress (Question 4 above), discuss these questions with your buddy:
   • What I am learning about me? Integrity? Commitment?

   • What I am learning about the linkages between My Activities and My Desired Results?

   • What am I learning about the linkages between My Desired Results and My Goals?

7. What I will do differently?

8. How will I institutionalize these learnings?

9. What kind of support can my Buddy give me?